11 Ways to Have a Positive Mindset

Don’t Let the Waves Crush You

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Life is hard. It’s not all rainbows, fairy tales, and candy.

Life can be unfair. Sometimes, it can become a bit too much for us. There are past incidents that may haunt you. There are current troubles that may be affecting you. The future could be scary.

As someone who has been through a lot, I can tell you right now, you have two options. Either you can throw your hands down and sit in the puddle of sadness or you can pick yourself up, put on that ‘boss’ hat, and smile at the fire.

If we allow defeat, we miss chances we may have had for our future. If we walk, daringly, into the future, we may find a life much better than what we had. Then, we’d wonder why we were ever down to begin with.

You’ll look in the mirror and see a sense of pride in yourself for being able to pick yourself up even as your heart was crumbling (this applies for all kinds of situations).

Of course, staying positive is easier said than done, just like anything worth our time. It’s always easier said than done. BUT, YOU CAN DO IT!

Start by gaining that little streak of gold and pure happiness. If you allow it to, it will carry you away to a place much better.

That’s not to say there won’t be big waves to face in your future, but you’ll learn how to face those when the time comes. And, if you are positive, instead of the wave crashing down on you, it will be more like gentle touch from the water.

I have combined 11 tips to help you remain positive. I hope these help!

1. Search for the Positive in the Negative.

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This is one of the most important aspects. Of course there are going to be negative, not so “good-feeling-inside” times.

Sit down. Take a look around you. Find a focal point. Then, close your eyes and escape the negativity even just for a moment. Search for the positive; even if it’s something small. What was it? Write it down.

Now, are there any learning opportunities in the negative situation? Is there anything you should do differently to avoid this negativity? If so, perfect, write it down. If you aren’t sure or can’t think of anything right now, write that down too. It will come to you.

Don’t allow the negative waves to drown you in the ocean of life.

2. Create Your Own Energy

Negativity sucks the energy out of you. Have you ever had your soul crushed, for any reason, and felt completely exhausted? Your energy has been taken up by the negative.

But… here’s the good. Find something positive. This can be a person, a group of people, nature, anything. Immerse yourself in positivity. Create your own happy environment.

It’s important to note here- watch who you spend your time with. If you notice there is someone ‘sucking your energy,’ determine whether or not the person or situation is worth giving away some of your positive energy and exchanging it for negative. Sometimes it is… many times it isn’t.

Find influences in your life who care about you. People who love you. People who are also positive, or working to be more positive, because happiness is contagious.

3. Walk First, Then Run

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If you try to run first, you will likely fall too quickly. Of course, this can be done, but it’s all determined based on how you feel.

Slow down; allow your body and mind to calm once you do reach that positive environment. This will help your energies to balance.

4. Don’t exaggerate a small issue.

Next time you become extremely upset with something, ask yourself if it matters enough to be this down. It’s much easier to be pessimistic than optimistic.

If you are pessimistic, you never expect anything. You don’t expect anything from work, from significant others, from friends. But, this will lead you right back to the negative ocean you were drowning in to begin with. Don’t allow yourself to get back there.

Breathe, re-focus, write down what you are grateful for, write down why you are working so hard in this life (your kids, your family, your husband or wife, etc).

Let go of the little things that won’t matter once they’re over.

5. Make Someone Else’s Life Better

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Do you believe in karma? What goes around comes back around.

The energy you send out will find it’s way back to you. When you show kindness, love, and happiness to others, you will see your life change. When you’re positive in life, you will see more positivity surrounding you.

Once you have your feet firmly planted on the ground, help someone who doesn’t. Help someone get to where you are. Listen to their problems and provide advice using your own personal experiences. Be encouraging. Uplift.

6&7. Diet and Exercise are Critical

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Diet and exercise are critical. I am sure you hear that a lot. More than this, sleep is important. In order for your mind and body to be completely calm, be sure to sleep well, eat healthy foods, and exercise for at least 30 minutes per day.

When you exercise, you’ll notice you feel happier. That’s because, when you exercise, ‘feel good’ hormones are released by your brain to help you balance.

A healthy lifestyle= A healthy life

8. Don’t Get Offended Easily

If you take a risk, the likelihood of you being criticized is high. When I first started my company, I received SO much criticism, both good and bad. It was very difficult to focus on only the good when those who had ‘bad’ things to say were close to me.

Guess what? I continued to press on regardless of the negative criticism. I focused on the positive criticism, the constructive criticism, and built a company that supports my family by itself.

Never let the fear of being criticized hold you back from your dreams.

9. Start your day positively.

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Start your day with positivity. The moment you open your eyes, think of something positive that is going to happen that day.

Want to know something silly? This ‘happiness’ could be as simple as looking forward to your morning cup of coffee (hint hint: I absolutely love the fresh taste of coffee in the morning).

If you wake up ‘on the wrong side of the bed,’ try your hardest to cling on to that positivity. If you can’t, and this is EXTREMELY important to remember, it is okay to have a bad day sometimes. Don’t get discouraged.

There are a lot of people who swear by meditation in the morning. I suppose I do my own type of meditation, but if you feel this is something that would work for you, it’s definitely worth a try.

I enjoy listening to classical music, mainly Fantasia, to help my mind get right. If I am having a bad day, or wake up ‘on the wrong side of the bed,’ I look at my beautiful children and we escape to nature. That’s where my soul is — and luckily I have two children who share my love for the Earth.

10. Perfect Days are Rare

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There is not really any such thing as a completely perfect day. Every day, we are going to encounter obstacles. The questions are:

How are we going to face those obstacles?

Are the obstacles big or small?

What action plan do we have in place to handle them?

If you find yourself in a positive mindset, even the largest of obstacles won’t seem so large. You’ll be more focused and more able to determine the best route to go to push the rock in your path aside.

11. Find humor in bad situations.

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Sometimes, you may even be able to find humor in bad situations. When you face a difficult time, put your gloves on and fight for the good. And, the likelihood that it will become a story later on, will become high.

Your hardships will become inspiration for others. They will ask you what you did. How did you get through that? Why didn’t you quit? Wouldn’t it have been easier to give up?

Uh, of course it would have been easier. But, that’s not what we’re all about. We’re fighters. We are warriors.

Most importantly, WE ARE HAPPY. WE ARE POSITIVE.

Lighten up and focus on the obstacle. Look for the humor. Figure out how to tell the story of what you went through when overcoming every obstacle put in your way.

Your Call to Action: The Power of Positive

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The “power of positive thinking” is a concept that is so critical there are classes on it. If you go to Google, and search positivity courses online, I guarantee you will find your fair share.

If you enjoy learning online, check it out. It’s always good to train your brain even further to a better way of thinking.

This article may appear to be cliché, but you would be surprised how many people need this advice. You never know what people have gone through, what they are going through, or what stories they have to tell.

Those who focus on a positive mindset will tell you how much it has changed their life for the better. They will tell you all of the amazing things they have accomplished. They will tell you who they have become.

You can do it! Always remember, YOU CAN DO IT! Now, get started!

Until next time!

Xoxo.

Top 15 Traits of Female Entrepreneurs

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Women, and men alike, can be extraordinary with persistence, strength, and ambition. For the purposes of this article, we are going to specifically discuss what the world feels are the top fifteen traits for female entrepreneurship.

Before we dive in, if we don’t cover an attribute you feel is absolutely critical to success, we would love to hear from you! Leave a comment with what you feel is most important trait for women in business.

1. Positivity

I think the best evenings are when we have messages, things that make us think, but we can also laugh and enjoy each other’s company.

Jane Goodall

Maintaining a positive outlook on life is key in being successful in all aspects of life from raising a family to running a corporation.

Women are well-known for being more optimistic in positions of authority. The bright side of situations is brought to the attention of the team and cranked at full speed.

2. Ambition

It doesn’t matter how great your shoes are if you don’t accomplish anything in them.

Martina Boone

Without ambition, there is no way to reach the big goals. Heck, there is barely any way to reach the little ones. You don’t sit around hoping for a company to be handed to you. You work toward the goal on a daily basis- even once you already have it.

3. Know Their Strengths

The most successful women know both their strengths and weaknesses. Weaknesses are reviewed and reflected upon; then, turned into strengths.

Know your strengths. Know your weaknesses. Play them both wisely. Have a strong plan.

4. Confidence

A confident woman, a woman who truly knows her worth and her power is a force to be reckoned with.

Mandy Hale

Do you know the saying ‘fake it until you make it?’ This is so important. And, it’s proven to be true. This has a lot to do with confidence in yourself and confidence in your passion. Confidence in your dreams.

Powerful women know they are powerful. Powerful women do not stop until they have accomplished what they have set in their mind to do.

Speak with confidence. Speak with credibility. Speak with authority. Know your worth.

5. Organization

Organization is an area many people struggle (men and women). But, organization is a must-have skill.

It’s extremely easy to become disorganized (especially when you have a lot on your plate). If you are feeling as if you are in a chaotic twister, take a moment to breathe, and review the information in front of you.

Female entrepreneurs are known to take this information and break it down piece by piece. Once the information has been broken down, it’s time to make a game plan.

Find some type of project management system and stick with it. Separate each “to-do” into specific tasks. Make due dates for those tasks. Get it done.

6. Self Growth

Successful female entrepreneurs are continuously improving themselves. There are always new things to learn whether you have been in business for 5 days, 5 years, or 5 decades. Stay fresh.

There are many female entrepreneurs (myself included) who have business coaches, life coaches, writing coaches, marketing coaches, etc. to help guide them along their way. This is particularly critical if you sit at your desk only to find a myriad of tasks to be completed.

7. Fail Forward

If it doesn’t scare you, you’re probably not dreaming big enough.

Tory Burch

If you fail, so what. Try again. If you fail for a second time, try again. Keep trying until you have learned all you can about those failures. Failures are how you move forward.

Every female entrepreneur, at some point in her career, and perhaps even continues to, fail forward. Remember, failure does not mean you aren’t doing well; it just shows you what you need to improve and where your areas of weakness are. Utilize failure to grow.

When you fail, write down why you failed. What did you do? What could you have done differently? Is there any information you should learn? A class you should attend? A skill you should gain? All of this information must be taken into consideration to ensure success.

8. No 9-5 Work Schedule

When you’re building a business, you’re either all in, or you’re not.

Barbara Corcoran

Success doesn’t just fall on your lap like a heavenly gift. But, if you work hard, you will see the rewards begin to pay off. At first, it may be small advances in the right direction. Every small advance leads you further forward and, before you know it, you look behind you to see how far you have traveled.

Successful female entrepreneurs don’t expect to work a traditional 9-5 work schedule. Some days there may only be a few hours to work to get tasks finished; other days are more like 14. Or, sometimes they may not even sleep for a night.

Of course, you want to try to be as balanced as possible. But, ensure you are working as hard as you can to reach your dream. This will take persistence, dedication, and perseverance.

9. Let it Go

Delete the negative; accentuate the positive.

Donna Karan

Female entrepreneurs who have climbed up the success ladder have had to learn to let things go. Of course, we are only human and there are going to be things we simply can’t. Or, some which may take a while.

If you are concerned about something, or there is something holding you back, ask yourself if it’s something that deserves your very valuable time or if it’s something that’s going to leave your time wasted.

We only live once (YOLO) so make sure any negative thoughts are worth your time and energy.

10. Enjoy What You Have While Working for What You Want

Successful, happy female entrepreneurs are happy with what they have right in front of them leaving the past behind (other than all the good memories) while working toward their goals. Find happiness in the small things.

Enjoy time with your family. Enjoy time with nature. Enjoy the little things. You don’t want to be so focused on business you forget to focus on the rest of your life.

Be thankful for every person in your life. Be thankful for the bad as well as the good because they both made you who you are today. Remain thankful for every opportunity. Be grateful for all you have right in front of your eyes.

11. No Success without Support

As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

Audrey Hepburn

Successful female entrepreneurs do not become successful completely on their own. Whether it’s their family, their team, their clients, or their customers, they have formed some type of support system.

Having people who lift you up, who are encouraging, who support your dreams and goals, is extremely important.

Never surround yourself without negativity. If you find yourself in a negative environment, try your best to find your way out. Build a network of strength to surround yourself with.

12. Constructive Criticism; Not Peace-Interrupting Arguments

Powerful women have learned when to address a situation and when to walk away. Know when to keep your peace.

If you do feel your input is necessary, but do not feel the individual you are speaking with will pick up the pieces of your statements, there is no point in attempting. Learn when to fight and when to walk away. Don’t go into battle unless you have to.

13. Passion

“You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.”

Jane Goodall

Passion is my personal absolute favorite. Successful female entrepreneurs are extremely passionate in what they do. They believe in the efforts they are making. That’s why so much time is spent. That’s why the extreme effort is worth it.

The passion inside provides inspiration. The passion provides so much inspiration and fire, even the ‘rough patches’ in business have a positive light shining through.

14. Vision

I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.

Estee Lauder

Every single entrepreneur needs vision. Envision your dreams. What is your plan to achieve the goals you have set? If you feel your goals are too large to accomplish the way you have them laid out, break each large goal into smaller goals so you can see all the progress you are making (and have made). Then, have the dedication and persistence to push through.

Keep the vision!

15. Never, Ever Give Up

If your actions create a legacy that inspires others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, then, you are an excellent leader.

Dolly Parton

It’s important to note as we complete this article, you must never give up. If you are an Entrepreneur, you work will never be done. If you are a good businesswoman, it just won’t. That’s a fact you will have to accept and learn to enjoy.

Make your mark on the world. Make a difference in the world. And never, ever give up!

Until next time!

Facebook Ads and Successful Entrepreneurship

I know how silly it sounds to advertise your company on social media. Believe me, I was once a business owner who was unsure of how social media could help my company succeed. Now, I have over 30,000 followers who read my work on a regular basis.

Word-of-mouth means everything for a company. Facebook has become a ‘word-of-mouth’ opportunity that goes beyond your local town, city, or village. With Facebook Ads, you can target your exact audience anywhere in the world.

Facebook is HUGE: The Best Platform for Advertising

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Facebook is the largest social media platform in the world. This comes are no surprise. If you look around, all (or most) of your friends and co-workers have a Facebook. And, most businesses have a Facebook page now as well.

Hiring a Social Media Professional

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If you’re already a business owner, CEO, or otherwise, you probably don’t have a ton of extra time on your hands to handle Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. In this case, you should consider a social media expert to conduct this portion of your business.

Now, you’re probably considering the cost. The bulk of the cost lies in the social media expert. The ads are not expensive to run; even when you have a huge target audience.

The social media professional could provide you with a HUGE return-on-investment. How? Paid ads are known to increase page clicks by up to 90%. This means the majority of the content you publish without a paid ad is not even seen.

Make Facebook a Priority

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In conclusion, whatever your goal for your business, Facebook should be a priority. If you decide to do it yourself, be sure to do some research to ensure your paid ads will accomplish the goals you have set. If you decide you are interested in a social media professional, I may or may not be available dependent upon the contracts I already have. Feel free to reach out to me to discuss your goals, rate, etc.

Until next time.

Your Mindset Matters: Everything Will Be Alright

Hey, guys. I am currently reading a book written by Jen Sincero (if you don’t know who she is- you need to). Each book she writes emphasizes the importance of a positive mindset. I really connected with this because I try my best to ensure my mindset is on the positive side of the spectrum even through the hard times.

If you have been following me, or know me personally, you likely know I have been traveling a rough road. There have been bumps, hills, and even brick walls at times. But, what can you do? Keep going.

I read a quote the other day that basically said ‘your story will be someone else’s survival guide someday.’ Someday, I will tell you more of my story. But, what matters the most now is my children are happy. That’s honestly what matters the most.

Mamas… as long as our kids are happy we are happy… right? Of course.

There’s No Perfect Life

What I am getting at here is there will always be something tormenting you if you allow it to. My experiences could easily weigh me down, and believe me, there are times the weight is heavy. Losing someone you love isn’t exactly easy much less what we have gone through.

For example: Losing someone you loved.

If you’re ‘alone,’ there are times you may feel lonely. You might miss the snuggles. You might miss the good times. Heck, you’d be surprised at how much you miss simply sitting on the couch cuddled up watching your favorite show. You know… that one you only watched if you were together.

You’ll get through it. If you are going through this experience, you will get through it but it will take time. You’ll notice your soul isn’t bleeding quite as much as time passes. The scar will always be there and there may be a stitch or two missing, but everything will be alright and you’ll move forward.

The Good Stuff

What’s the good stuff? The good stuff includes all the things you’re happy for. And, my my my. There is so much.

What am I most grateful for personally? Obviously, my kids come first. I am a mother first and foremost. But, I am grateful we have a home to live in they love. I am grateful they have friends. I am grateful for how well they’re both doing in school. I am grateful for my company. I am grateful for all of you who are reading this right now and serving as my support.

I am grateful to be alive.

Once you have been through SO much, you learn how to look at life from a different perspective. I guess trauma does that to you. I have now been divorced twice, I have almost died numerous times, and I have gone through the unthinkable.

You learn to look around and see the tree outside whose colors are so mesmerizing you’re entranced as if it has taken hold of you. Music connects to your soul as if the lyrics were stitched into it. Every small thing holds greatness and you see miracles surrounding you.

People Get the Wrong Idea

For those of you who are positive, don’t let negativity weigh you down. Being ‘fake’ is what some people may call your positivity. That’s not true and don’t let them talk you into believing negative thoughts make you ‘real.’

Everyone, and I mean everyone, has negative thoughts at some point or another. The point in life is to brush them off your shoulder and grab hold tightly of the good ones.

Instead of ‘why did this happen to me,’ try thinking ‘what has this taught me?’ What have your experiences done to you? Every experience, person, etc. has shaped you into the person you are today. If you aren’t who you want to be, what steps are you going to take to get there?

Set goals. Once you achieve those goals, set new goals. Build a dream. What do you have to accomplish to get there?

WRITE THEM DOWN. I can’t emphasize that point enough. Make sure you write them down. Write your goals down every single day. Write your dream down every single day. Get into that mindset. Keep that mindset. The time will pass and if you’re taking the steps, you’ll notice how much progress you are making.

The Song That’s Everyday

There’s a song I listen to every day before work; before I start writing. Or, sometimes while I am writing. There’s actually a few I listen to, but I want to share this one with you.

 

That’s all I have for you today.

Until next time, guys.

Meeting Your Goals and Living Your Dream

There are many people who feel like they’re working their butt off, but they aren’t getting anywhere. I know because I was once one of those people.

But, here’s the thing. Life can be broken down into goals. Now, don’t get overly ‘focused’ on achieving each goal exactly how you expect it to be achieved. Some goals will work out exactly as planned and you may hit some speed bumps on others.

Obstacles get in the way of our goals sometimes… and that’s okay. We just have to push that boulder over or walk around it to continue moving forward.

Goal-Setting: Where Do I Begin?

Here’s a BIG problem I have noticed many have. As both a Professor, a CEO, and a Professional Writer, I have realized how difficult it is for people to set goals (and I do have trouble myself sometimes, too).

In a seminar this week, I was informed of the SMART method. It’s actually quite interesting.

The SMART method is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound goals. Well, we all know those are all important- but how much have we really thought about our goals?

Goal setting is powerful. It’s powerful because it lets you see the milestones you have accomplished behind you, the ones that are right in your lap, and those to come.

Goals can motivate. Inspire. Help you dream.

And, if you have a family, goals are particularly important.

As a single mother, goals are extremely important to me and I do my best to make sure all of my goals are attainable. But, in all reality, I am a dreamer and I dream BIG. The dreams may not come true immediately, but step-by-step, goal-by-goal, I become closer. And, you can too.

The Goal-Setting Process

  1. What’s your life goal? What do you want to achieve in your lifetime? Mine was to become a Mother. My biggest dream has already come true. My next life goal is to ensure my company continues to build and someday find a special man my little boys and I can share our lives with on a farm. Someday. A man who loves his family, cares for his family, and cherishes every moment spent with us. To me, family is what is most important in life.
  2. How do you attain the life goal(s) you have set? Of course my goal of finding someone for my boys and I to share our lives with isn’t a ‘step-by-step’ process, but the continuous building of my company is (and purchasing a farm is whether that’s on my own or with someone special someday). Break it down into steps. For example, one of the “small” steps I take every single day involves marketing. Entrepreneurship isn’t easy and marketing is critical to ensure your business stays afloat.
  3. Keep notes. Keep a journal with all of your goals; daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. Place a check mark next to them as you make your accomplishments.

If you’re in a ‘rough spot’ in your life, keeping goals will also help inspire you, bring you courage, and motivation to continue to move forward.

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What if I Don’t Meet My Goals?

What if you don’t meet the goals you have set? Keep going! Sometimes goals can take longer to achieve than what you had originally planned. Don’t give up. Keep going. You can do this!

“If you can dream it, you can do it!” -Walt Disney