The idea of self-reflection can be a bit intimidating. What does it mean? How do you go about it? While there are many ways to practice this exercise, I’ve found that the easiest is simply writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal.
As an example, let’s say you have been having some trouble concentrating on work lately. You could start by writing down all the things you think might be causing your lack of focus: “I need to clean the house,” “I don’t like my job,” “My boss is overwhelming,” etc.
Then, write down how each thought makes you feel (frustrated, angry, upset). Finally, ask yourself what actions these thoughts lead to (procrastinating on projects; avoiding going into work). Once you’ve completed this process with all your major issues—your job satisfaction being just one example—you should have a pretty good idea of where to start making changes in order to improve how much positivity is entering into your life.
The important thing here isn’t necessarily finding answers but rather reflecting on how different situations make us feel. By doing so regularly (for instance every morning), we can begin building up an understanding of how our minds work and what triggers our negative behaviors so that we can eventually begin changing them for the better!
One of the best ways to stay positive is to surround yourself with people who are positive and avoid negative people. You may not be able to control how others act, but you can choose whom you spend time with.
If you’re in a position where it’s hard for you to avoid these people, try talking with them about their attitude. Ask them what they think about what’s going on in the world today and see if they have any advice for overcoming challenges or keeping a positive outlook on life. This gives them an opportunity to open up about their feelings and helps build understanding between the two of you when they realize that they’re not alone in feeling this way.
Staying positive isn’t easy. You’re going to face difficult situations and people that make you feel angry, frustrated or sad. When this happens, it’s important to take a step back from your situation and focus on the good in your life. If there isn’t anything making you happy in the present moment, then look forward to what is coming up for you in the future – whether it’s an event or something exciting happening at work.
Another way to avoid negativity is by limiting exposure to negative news, social media and websites with negative stories as well as people who are negative themselves. It can be hard but focus on what is going well in life rather than focusing on everything that is not working out perfectly right now!
Challenge Negative Thoughts
If you’re struggling with negative thoughts, challenge them with evidence. Write down the negative thought and then write down how you can challenge it. For example: “I’m so ugly… everyone will think I’m gross.”
- Evidence supporting your negative thought: You have a scar on your face from a dog bite when you were 4 years old.
- Evidence against your negative thought: Your friends have never said anything about it, so maybe no one cares? Maybe they don’t look at you like that at all! Even if they did, who cares what other people think? It’s not about them! It’s about YOU being happy with yourself… which is something that only YOU can do for yourself!
Try journaling or writing down three things you are thankful for each day.
- Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a helpful way to process them.
- Asking yourself the question, “what am I grateful for?” can help you focus on the positive things in life.
- It’s important to find time during your day to focus on yourself, so that you can recharge your batteries and stay positive throughout the day.
- Set aside time every morning or evening when you feel most relaxed and calm (like first thing in the morning when you wake up or last thing at night before bed).
- Spend 20 minutes writing down three things that make each day special for you (or more if possible), such as friends, family members, pets etc., anything that makes life worth living or brings happiness into it! If there aren’t many good things happening then think about what happened yesterday because we tend not remember bad moments but rather forget them quickly once something good happens around us 😉
Keep a Gratitude Journal
Keeping a gratitude journal is an effective way to help you stay positive.
When you’re keeping track of your blessings and focusing on the good things in life, it can help you put things in perspective and make you feel better about yourself, your life, and the people around you.
To get started with this habit, here’s what to keep in mind:
- What should I write about? You can write about anything that makes you grateful—from small moments like having a delicious breakfast or seeing an adorable puppy on the street, to big accomplishments like getting promoted at work or earning an award for volunteer work. It doesn’t matter what it is; just write down whatever comes to mind when thinking about the things that give you joy (or even those that don’t).
- How often should I write? Try writing three times per week at first—but don’t worry if this isn’t realistic right away! You’ll want to make sure that every time feels like enough time for reflection without feeling too overwhelming (think: journaling after dinner instead of right before bed). Afterward, try increasing how often by adding another day until it becomes part of your routine (like brushing your teeth). Once this happens successfully once or twice more times over six months’ time period then congratulations! Now there’s no stopping them from sticking around longer than expected 🙂
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Find a Mentor
Finding a mentor who shares similar goals and who demonstrates a positive attitude and actions can be one of the best things you can do to stay motivated. A mentor doesn’t have to be famous; they just need to be someone you trust, like your dad or mom, an older sibling or cousin, or even a friend.
Your mentor can help inspire you with their stories about how they dealt with challenges in their own lives (and overcome them!). They’ll also be able to give advice on specific problems that come up—for example, if your parents are divorced then maybe they’ll know what kind of advice would be helpful for someone else dealing with that situation!
Mentors also provide another perspective: sometimes it’s hard for us as individuals because we only see things from our own viewpoint—our own experiences and emotions—and sometimes this makes it difficult for us to understand other people’s situations fully. A mentor gives us an outside view of whatever issue needs resolving at hand; plus they know firsthand what works well so they may even provide some tips based on personal experience too!
Positive affirmations are a great way to change your mindset. You can use them to counter negative thoughts, stay motivated, and achieve goals by focusing on the good things in life. Here are some examples of positive affirmations:
- “I love my body.” This is a simple statement that’s easy to repeat throughout the day. Saying it will help you focus on feeling healthy and strong, instead of focusing on what you don’t like about your physique.
- “I am happy.” This affirmation allows you to think about all of the things in life that make you happy—like friends or hobbies—instead of dwelling on negativity or stressors from work or home life.
There will always be people in your life who want to bring you down, so it’s important that you learn how to set boundaries and let them know when they’re crossing them. If a friend or family member is being rude or mean, stay calm and tell them how their behavior makes you feel. For example: “I don’t appreciate your tone of voice; I’d like for us to speak more politely with each other.”
If someone tells you something that makes you uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to say so! Whether it’s something personal about yourself or a less-than-complimentary opinion about someone else, respond with confidence by saying “No thanks.” This sends a clear message that what they’re offering isn’t something you want or need right now.
Create a Wish List
You can use a wish list to keep your motivation high by thinking about all the things you’d like to accomplish in the future. From travel plans and career goals, to hobbies and personal habits, this is an opportunity for you to get excited about what’s possible. The key is to not just create a list of things that seem achievable (i.e., “learn Spanish”) but also include items that are more ambitious (i.e., “buy a house”).
It may seem like adding another item on your already packed schedule could result in more stress—but actually having something concrete will help make those dreams feel attainable, which will motivate you even more!
Share Your Gratitude in Your Journal
There are many ways that you can be more positive, like surrounding yourself with positive people and keeping a daily gratitude journal.
- Surround yourself with positive people. If you have friends who tend to complain a lot, it can be hard to stay positive. The same goes for family members. It’s important to have friends or family members that support your goals and help keep a positive attitude when things get tough.
- Keep a daily gratitude journal: Every night before bed write down three things that went well during the day and why they went well (for example, “I met an awesome new friend at my job”). Studies show that people who do this on a regular basis are happier than those who do not! It’s also great practice for developing gratitude every day!
- Find mentors: Mentors can help guide us along our journey toward success by teaching us valuable lessons from their own experiences along the way. A mentor is someone who has already been through where we want to go and has learned how best not only survive but thrive in these journeys themselves—they offer encouragement when needed most so don’t hesitate reaching out if ever unsure about anything!